I was standing in my kitchen the other day and had an intriguing thought. If my wife and I both are standing in our kitchen, and let's say some light catches in a certain way, reflecting off some glass and into my retina, she (my wife) may experience something similar, but she could never experience the light in the same way I did. In fact, no one could experience this light (for starters, no one can spatially locate themselves where I am); it was experience only by me.

From this point of view, every object appeared in such a way that only I will experience. Indeed, the appearance of each object was unique to my experience: little glimmers of light hither and thither that show up only in my point of view. The notion then of "the objective appearance of the object when unobserved" becomes meaningless; if an experience is not had by anybody, it has no place in the world—experiences do not just float around waiting to be had—they exist only in their being had and then cease to exist once again.

Each moment as experienced by the observer exists only in their experience of it. The qualia of the experience—the apparent smoothness of the glass that shimmered, for example—end when the experience ends. The smoothness of the glass experienced by me exists only for me. When my wife or any other observer have a similar experience, the smoothness of the glass experienced by them exists only for them. **But an objective smoothness does not reside on the surface of the glass. This can be extended to all other apparent qualities: reflectivity, conductivity, transparency, absorbency, buoyancy, etc., all of which show up for us individually as observers measuring a system, but none of which are inherent to the system being measured.